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Warning Signs of Dating Violence

Are you going out with someone who...

  • Is jealous or possessive toward you? Won't let you have friends? Checks up on you? Won't accept breaking up? Tries to control you by being bossy? Giving orders, making all the decisions: Doesn't take you seriously?
  • Is scary? You worry about how s/he will react to things you say or do? Threatens you? Uses or owns weapons?
  • Is violent: has a history of fighting? Loses temper easy? Brags about mistreating others?
  • Pressures you for sex? Is forceful or scary around sex? Thinks of you as a sex object? Tries to guilt trip you by saying "if you really loved me you would..."? Gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
  • Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them?
    Blames you for the mistreatment They might say that you provoked him/her, pushed his/her buttons, made him/her do it, led him/her on?
  • Has a history of bad relationships and always blames other people for their problems?
  • Believes that in a relationship one person should be in control and have all the power and the other person should be submissive?
  • Your friends and family have warned you about the person or told you they are worried about your safety?

If this sounds familiar... get help!

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Healthy Relationships

Unhealthy Relationships
  1. Discussing and agreeing on things (Ex. Where to go on a date)
  2. Liking each other as you are
  3. Respecting each other's feelings
  4. Being open-minded with each other
  5. Being able to do other things with your friends
  6. Trusting and being honest with each other
  1. Not respecting each other's privacy and individual space
  2. Being filled with jealousy
  3. Not being able to trust each other
  4. Being selfish
  5. One person controlling the other
  6. Lying to each other
  7. Being violent
  8. Forcing your partner to do anything they don't want to do

 

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